The most important thing was creating a feeling of beauty, love and warmth. We wanted every detail to be personal and engaging. To reflect not only the old world romance that we feel but also to reflect the love and support that we feel for those that showed up for us as a couple. It was imperative that everyone who showed up for us felt welcome and loved!
Our wedding styles were classic, comfortable and beautiful old world vintage! Elements of art deco but no specific era. Elle’s Maggie Sottero capelet for her wedding dress made the whole look pop with this in mind. Sarah wore a custom made suit made by Blair Shapera designed by her!
Our bridesmaids in dresses wore J. Crew and our bridesmaids in pants wore pants of their own and the shirts were by a local queer designer called Peau De Loup.
We are both old world romantics and have very quirky, warm and often sentimental personalities. We wanted the energy to reflect those things. A mix of copper pennies, rose quartz and vintage details helped to pull together our vision. Our colors were blush, burgundy, soft grey and gold. It was less about choosing a set of colours but more about choosing details and as they started to take form the colours chose us!
Our advice: Hire professionals! Haha! Elle is very crafty (she did all the calligraphy herself!) but it was a lot to take on. At the very, very least hire a day-of planner so that you don’t have to stress about details and can fully be present in your special day.
Elle is a yoga teacher and ceremony is important to both of us. One of her best friends and cohorts officiated (the non-legal portion) which felt so beautiful and personal. Our ceremony included our guests individually touching/blessing our wedding rings beforehand and a cleansing of the space with palo santo prior to our entering. We wrote our individual vows in addition to the crowd standing and accepting our union out loud.
We chose to have a raw rose quartz on each person’s setting. Rose quartz is a symbol of unconditional love. It carries an energy of compassion, healing, and comfort. As a gay couple, these qualities were important to us to share with those who support our union.
Music with meaning…
Processional: Glass Vase, Cello Case by Tattle Tale (our homage to the campy But I’m A Cheerleader!)
Recessional: Love on Top by Beyonce
First Dance: Simple things by Miguel
